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The concept of treason is surrounded by dozens of myths. Some of them are dangerous for relationships. For example, the opinion that everyone changes without exception (which means “I can too”), or the common phrase that “turning to the left” strengthens marriage. What is known about change?
What do we know about infidelity? Everyone is afraid of them, many of us have encountered them, and no one knows how to protect themselves from them. University of Florida psychologists Frank Fincham and Ross May approached the issue of adultery thoroughly and summarized research on this topic. Here’s what they found out.
1. Probability theory
Within one year, approximately 2-4% of spouses enter into a relationship on the side. Throughout the life of the spouses, infidelity occurs in 20-25% of marriages.
2. Office romance
85% of cheating happens with colleagues or at work.
3. Summer is a small life
Just like sexual behavior, cheating is subject to seasonal fluctuations. In particular, they peak in the summer, because people travel more in summer, and being alone away from a partner provides more opportunities for secret pleasures. “What happens at the resort stays at the resort” is a common excuse.
4. Progress affects the frequency of cheating
Between 1991 and 2006, infidelity increased catastrophically, especially among men over 65 years of age. Psychologists explain this by the appearance on the market of drugs for the treatment of erectile dysfunction.
5. Cheating women are more likely to lead to divorce
Women began to change much more often than even 10-20 years ago. In the age category up to 45 years today, the percentage of infidelity is approximately the same for both sexes. Women are usually emotionally involved in a relationship with a lover, which leads to divorce more often than a one-time extramarital sex for married men.
6. Apple from an apple tree
Children who grew up in families where adultery was practiced were twice as likely to have lovers in marriage as adults.
7. Working moment
They are more common in couples where one partner works and the other does not.
Bonus Fact: Guilt
There is another fact — Scott Haltzman, professor of psychology at Brown University and author of Secrets of Happy Husbands, is convinced that most deceivers feel guilty and deep down dream of exposure.
“People may subconsciously strive to be brought to clean water. Lipstick marks on the collar, open emails on the family computer, it doesn’t take long to find clues, says Scott Haltzman. It’s often a cry for help. Many of the traitors want to be declassified so they can stop. But they don’t know how to do it.»
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